Not love, Compatibility


What is love? Is it the seemingly necessary bond that has to exist between two people to ensure that their lifelong association does not turn into a nightmare of sorts? Do we really experience a magical spark that sets our nerve endings on fire , because quite frankly that sounds like a full blown panic attack to me. Are we merely deluding ourselves by thinking that a single powerful emotion towards somebody else is enough to sustain the long and arduous journey that is life? I believe that we need something beyond just bestowing our innermost affections, as the most shattering blows are often effected by those whom we hold dear to our hearts. This is because, when we care with such fervour, all sense departs and what’s left is only a battleground where we have to fight to survive.

 So, what ultimately promises, if not guarantees that we may find the happiness we have been seeking ? Not love, but compatibility which , despite how business-like it sounds, is quintessential to prevent two people from being at constant loggerheads with each other. Let’s face it folks, if you don’t have at least that minimum level of understanding and mutual respect, the animosity, the accusations and eventually, the guilt will seep through the cracks and make themselves known. Being on the same page is basically what compatibility is all about. You are able to have something with the other person that goes beyond tolerance, beyond mere acceptance of a fact and ultimately brings you the peace of mind that you inherently crave.


Compatibility stems from agreeing without making an effort and you seem to fall into place with the other person so quickly that you wonder where  they have been all your life.We don’t realise it but the reason we are so comfy and at our absolute raw state with our friends is because we find a certain balance , compatibility. So, why not look for the same in the person we are going to spend the rest of our lives with? Remember, it is not what we face or even how much we struggle , it’s who is responsible for it and who holds our hand through it. Hopefully, we choose the latter as our life partner.

Nivedita

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